The art of the sensual massage

Why is it so many people e-mail me and complain about escorts who offer a sensual massage? You have no idea how many I get. They say that this is an art that South African women have never been able to master. Now I'm posting this because in many ways I agree. A sensual massage is in many ways just a fancy way of paying for sex. You get what you pay for, plain and simple.

A sensual massage for most men has one meaning. "Happy Ending!" Fine if that's all you're interested in. For me though, the happy ending is the cherry and a small payoff if the women knows what she's doing. Now I have yet to meet a South African escort who gives a great sensual massage.

It isn't about the oils that they use. It isn't about the nakedness or the near nakedness to some extent and it certainly isn't about the explosion of cum once all is said and done.

I had the privilege of interviewing Monica Van Tiel about 2 years ago, before my return to South Africa. She's a gorgeous thirty something woman who only did sensual massages. There was no penetration, but she was open to giving oral. When I arrived at her place in Germany, I was greeted with a warm smile and a pleasant hug. This was an interview. She happened to be retired and I was getting some insights into the European trade.

After an hour I stood up and thanked her for her time. I told her that I would write a good article on her but that I had to admit I was skeptical about her claim that men would pay her full rates just for the massage and sometimes not even urge her for the "Happy ending."

This pissed her off. To prove her point I was promptly told I would be getting a massage immediately. She was tough, there was no saying no.

Five minutes later I'm face down on a table, small towel over my naked ass, and Miss Tiel, rubbing oil into my back and legs in nothing but a tiny pantie.

HEAVEN! For half an hour she dug her fingers into my back. Every now and then she'd reach under the towel and run a finger across my asshole or gently squeeze my balls. She even climbed on the table and nibbled my neck while her hard nipples pressed into my back.

By the time I flipped over onto my back, I was as solid as a rock. BUT, I was also relaxed and completely at ease. Every inch of my body was tingling. I was sensitive to her every touch and didn't want her to stop. I knew, that the happy ending would just be a signal that it was over.

So when she was done, she smiled and said, "how would you like me to finish it?"

"oral", I said.

She slapped a condom on me and I came in about 30 seconds. WOW!

Now in South Africa, I've yet to meet someone that can pull this art off. If you know anyone that advertises this and made you feel incredible, let me know.

I myself contacted a number of sexy escorts asking them to elaborate on their technique. I got 8 responses from across the country, but this one stood out for me. Jody, over at Paramour: http://paramourescorts.co.za/profile/jody

A blond bombshell with gorgeous tits and one of the sexiest profiles I've ever read. She could very well be worth the trouble, but please note I've never used her so in no way can recommend her. Here's her response to my question.

"I do believe i offer a very good toe curling sensual massage.I start off with a proper massage then it becomes more sensual with my finger tips,i then do a boobrub all over the back as well as front,i use the tip of my tongue to stroke every inch of the top body,i use my hair to caress & stroke the body,i take my time as that is what sets the mood for whats to follow."

Thanks Jody. Now I wonder what you mean by "whats to follow" I'm intrigued.

Cheers

Seduce her imagination...

...and you'll get to taste the sweet nectar straight from her pussy.

I remembered a day when I sat down with renowned sex therapist Amelia Day. Based in Florida, US, back when I was writing for Rockstar, a fantastic porn magazine that's launched the careers of some of today's hottest porn stars. She was fascinated by the fact that I was South African. As I sat down in her living room, she leaned over and whispered..."I've never fucked a South African man before." I was rock hard in 0.2 seconds, sweaty and horny instantly. She smiled, sat back, crossed her legs.
"The imagination is the most powerful sexual tool we humans posses. It's more potent than a six pack and blows a leggy blond with big boobs straight out the water."

I couldn't help but laugh a little uncomfortably as I sat there trying to shift what was becoming an increasingly painful hard-on that was lying in a horrible position. She noticed my discomfort and promptly told me to right myself.

So there I was, standing in front of a really beautiful woman with a wicked smile, hand down my pants, shifting my cock around. BLIND!

We spoke about a lot of things that day. But the one thing that stood out for me most, was the insight into the female sexual brain.

Most women think about sex more than a guy. What they do differently though, is hide it well. We guys are blatant about it. We allow it to dominate us. We turn our heads when a hot chic passes us in the street. We talk about it with our friends. We watch porn and jack off the moment we have a slight stiff cock.

Women use it though. They allow it to fill their entire being. They use it as a tool. It's like a weapon that will always keep a woman at the top of the food chain. We have no power over it. We are blind before it and will do anything to own it.

The problem for men though, is we cannot turn it off. Our off switch is a sweet load of cum dispersed every where and any where. A woman can lose it instantly. AND normally, 90% of the time, we are the cause of that loss. We turn a woman off by groping at her, by staring at her.

You want a woman to stay hot. Get hotter? Then play with her imagination. Small touches. Small, short phrases. A small smile. A gentle kiss. A sweet suggestion. The best advice I ever received? When seducing a woman, LESS IS MORE.